#you have to be the patient one the responsible one the dependable one the problem and the solution.

[bruciemilf]

I can’t really get into the parentification of Dick or “dadwing”, mostly because a big portion of people assign him the “healthy, perfect parent” trait as a dunk on Bruce. But they also want the “elder sister” angst at the same time, which just doesn’t mix.

Saying that Dick is the less dysfunctional option for his siblings is laughable because HE’S inherently a flawed human being with a flawed set of coping mechanisms.

I don’t see him knocking on the therapist’s office instead of putting on the mask. Do you?

If you want the big sister, get ready for the cruelty that comes with her. And we’ve personally seen just how good Dick is at hurting feelings.

[gibberishfangirl]

WIND BREAKER | when they have a shopaholic girlfriend

Synopsis ✰ head cannons of the boys when they’re dating a girl who loves to shop

Characters ✰ Haruka Sakura, Hajime Umemiya, Hayato Suo, Akihiko Nirei, Jo Togame, Choji Tomiyama

Contains ✰ suggestive, blushing boys, slight teasing, semi-public (implied), cute content of the boys being boyfriends, tiny amount of spice?

Haruka Sakura ᡣ𐭩

♡ you drag this man to the mall at least twice a week

♡ he personally hates shopping and finds it to be boring but never complains since it’s an excuse to spend time with you

♡ secret confession: he thinks your wasting money but is way too afraid to face your wrath to say it out loud

♡ whenever he asks why you spend so much money on clothes and make up he gets hit with a “there’s a price for beauty”

♡ after he seeing how cute you look in your new outfits he most definitely learns that there is a price for beauty

♡ he will become a blushing mess when you pick out the most revealing outfits

♡ “what do you think?” you asked picking up a skimpy dress and pressing it against your body. his only response is a huge blush that spreads from his nose, cheeks to the tip of his ears

♡ he loses it once you drag him into victoria secret

♡ “don’t you think this would look nice on me?” you teased while picking up crotchless underwear

♡ you absolutely will be the death of this man

♡ he feels like the worlds biggest boy toy carrying all your pink shopping bags and following you into every clothing store

♡ you reward him for being so nice and patient with your shopping by taking him to one of his favorite stores and buying him whatever he wants

♡ wetzel’s pretzels pit stop is a must

♡ you reward him even more by trying on every scandalous outfit you purchased at home in private

Hajime Umemiya ᡣ𐭩

♡ acknowledges that your shopping addiction is a problem and tries to help without making you feel bad

♡ he mostly tries to help you through budgeting, thanks to him you’ve cut down shopping to twice a month

♡ Umemiya personally loves your style, especially with how confident you are in your clothes

♡ he always suggests that you should try on your clothes before committing to the purchase

♡ don’t be fooled, it’s not because he wants you to make sure they fit you, he just loves seeing how cute you look in the new outfits

♡ on some occasions he goes around the store himself picking out the cutest tops and skirts he can find for you

♡ once he picks out the cutest pieces he can find you do him the favor of trying them on while he gets to admire your beauty

♡ you manage to get the very lightest blushes from him when the skirts he picks out happen to be shorter than he originally pictured

♡ once your done doing a number on all the stores he carries all your bags

♡ it always surprises you how no matter how many bags you have ume carries them with a startling amount of ease

♡ ofc you offer to carry some but he insists you shouldn’t lift a pretty finger

♡ every cashier compliments how adorable you two look together

♡ “how cute! you two look like a match made in heaven.” a comment you two often receive a lot

♡ depending on your guys mood you might end the day with a movie night

♡ no, Ume can’t help but keep his hands all over you in the dark theater once he finally has you to himself

Hayato Suo ᡣ𐭩

♡ will always offer to pay for your items

♡ fortunately enough for his wallet, you almost always decline since you prefer to use your own money

♡ has no problem carrying all your bags, does it with a smile on his face

♡ almost every girl who sees you at the mall is raging with pure jealousy

♡ so many of the girls wished they had a boyfriend as sweet as yours

♡ you couldn’t help but glare at every girl in the mall who was checking him out

♡ he quickly noticed your glares which had him gushing on the inside

♡ he was so flattered to know you could be so possessive over him

♡ once you noticed every cashier you got were lingering their eyes on him longer than they should, batting their eyelashes at him, smiling harder at him than you, one of them even winked at him when they thought you weren’t looking, you lost it.

♡ “i want to go home. im done shopping.” you pouted. Suo knew exactly why you didn’t want to shop anymore but still asked “why not love?” “everyone keeps falling in love with you!” you whined before putting your head on his chest. his heart fluttered at the action before he opened his mouth, “don’t pay any mind to them. i’m all yours” reassuring you with a soft kiss

♡ Suo made sure to reassure you with kisses more after the conversation

♡ you made the mistake of leaving him alone while getting a jamba juice drink, you came back to find a girl asking him out

♡ before you knew it your feet were moving up to them, completely ignoring the girl. you grabbed your boyfriends head by the back of his neck and yanked him down to a deep kiss. you pulled away while saying “hey babe”, the girl instantly walked away embarrassed

♡ Suo blushed after the incident while you continued walking to the next store as if nothing happened

Akihiko Nirei ᡣ𐭩

♡ the absolute sweetest boyfriend about your habits

♡ he’s so incredibly supportive while also making sure you aren’t going to overboard

♡ he helps ensure that you’re only buying what you need and not things you’ll get over in a week

♡ he has no bad opinions, tells you everything looks nice since in his head everything does look nice on you

♡ he gets a little nervous whenever you drag him to the fitting room so you can get his opinions on the clothes

♡ he sits in the lounge room anticipating the moment you walk out of the changing room

♡ you treat this as if it were a fashion show making him tell you what he likes about each article of clothing

♡ whenever you get near any lingerie he gets incredibly shy trying not to look

♡ he won’t even look at the mannequins if they’re wearing risqué clothing

♡ such a sweet innocent boy who you can’t help but tease

♡ one of your favorite things to do were joke about buying lingerie for him, holding up a black lacey set you ask “can you imagine me wearing this for you? would you like it?” with a sweet smile

♡ he could never give you a proper response due to fighting back any suggestive thoughts, just blushes

♡ you let out a giggle and made your way to the cash register making him freeze in shock before quickly making his way to you

♡ you purchased it, Nirei was furiously blushing when the cashier smiled at you and then looked up at him

♡ Nirei’s thoughts were going absolutely wild the entire way home just wondering how soon you’d be willing to wear that for him

Jo Togame ᡣ𐭩

♡ he carries all your bag with a significant amount of ease, doesn’t even let you touch a bag before he already has it in place around his arm with the others

♡ Togame doesn’t get shy, jokes about suggestive clothing won’t work on him if anything he’d ask you to wear it for him

♡ this man is holding your hand 24/7, if he has too many bags to hold your hand, you settle with wrapping your arm around his bicep

♡ he loves having such a pretty girl on his arm

♡ he will glare at every man who has lingering eyes on you fighting the urge to go over there and punch both their eyes out of their sockets

♡ he’s the one who drags you into victoria secret, his favorite thing to do is pick out underwear for you to wear later

♡ “these would look so nice on you… while i push them aside to touch your cute little cunt” he whispers in your ear making your face beat red

♡ he’s gotten so used to all your habits and all the stores you go to

♡ he’s mesmerized where all your favorite stores are at so if you ever forget he can easily lead the two of you there

♡ you’re so thankful for Togame’s height whenever there’s an item that’s the last one and is too high up to get he comes to your rescue

♡ he loves to ‘rescue’ you since you always reward him with a kiss and a small “my hero” he loves to hear your praise

♡ you’re a gorgeous girl, ofc there’s always a guy who wants to ask you out

♡ before any guy can even make their way to you they meet Togame’s eyes that holds a dark threatening aura to them

♡ consider every man in existence to be scared off

♡ he personally doesn’t care about your shopping addiction as long as your happy and safe

♡ he ensures that your safety by always being there by your side

Choji Tomiyama ᡣ𐭩

♡ he loves your shopping addiction, he thinks it’s a cute habit of yours and figures if you can afford it why not?

♡ he finds it absolutely adorable to watch you gush over every item at the store

♡ you both always go to miniso first, it’s a must

♡ especially since it’s the main store that provides items you both like

♡ you guys are fascinated by the alarming amount of blind boxes miniso provides

♡ you do some blind boxes unboxing and he always gives you the one he gets if it’s the one you originally wanted

♡ when it comes to clothing shops he loves watching you try on clothes

♡ he purposefully picks out the shortest skirts for you to try on

♡ “try this on for me? yeah?” he was never afraid to ask you to try on something scandalous for him even if it made your face crimson red

♡ Choji is anything but shy he has no problem being bold with you, it’s a blessing and a curse

♡ “i- you can’t come in with me!” you blush as Choji steps inside the changing room. his only response is “no one’s watching us, it’s fine”

♡ Choji is very impatient. he won’t wait until your home, if he wants you he’ll have you

♡ even if that means having to clamp his hand over your mouth to muffle the sweet sounds you make

♡ secret confession: Choji loves to pick out miniskirts for you, it makes you so easily accessible

a/n <3 : i’ve been in such a head cannon mood lately? im having so much fun writing them, im obsessed! expect more to come soon <3

[elysiansparadise]

Hi! I'd like to know more about Mars square Saturn in synastry if you're up to it. Thank you.

How to deal with Mars-Saturn square in synastry?

The square between Mars-Saturn can cause differences when it comes to taking action. One may be more action-oriented, while the other tends to think too much before doing something. Their approach when implementing an idea can be very different, creating irritability or frustration depending on the occasion. One party may constantly feel 'held back' by the other. 

As for practical approaches, I can mention the following:

🤍Accept your differences: Through acceptance, complementation can come. You two are a team and having different approaches can make them an excellent one, mixing the ability to act of one and the ability to plan of the other can lead to not only achieving success, but to being a very strong and lasting couple in the long term. Understanding that differences are not necessarily a bad thing and keeping an open mind by recognizing the good side of these traits in the other can help you create a healthy and supportive environment.

🤍Identify friction and come to agreements: Talk about situations where you feel like you are clashing with the other [for example, money, responsibilities, time together]. This step creates a foundation of mutual understanding and allows you to anticipate future problems. To avoid recurring frustrations, it is essential that the couple work on conscious agreements about how to act in situations of conflict or making important decisions.

🤍Honest and constructive conversations: Don't be afraid to tell your partner how you feel or if you see it as optimal for both of you to make changes. It is important that both seek the well-being of the other without this meaning demotivating them or offering destructive criticism, you can disagree without harming the other person. Tact is a crucial part, but it requires honesty for it to be positive and useful. You need to talk about your feelings, needs, preferences and dislikes.

Some aspects in astrology that can help with this are the following:

🩶Aspects between Mars/Uranus and Moon not only create a happy, positive and comfortable environment in this couple, but both can help each other get out of their comfort zone by reassuring the other that they will be there to make the process smooth and positive for the other. There is a strong camaraderie between them and they work together to ensure that the relationship progresses and does not feel tense.

🩶The aspects between Mercury-Saturn can give you tact to say things. You can help each other through advice to shape or give more structure to your partner's ideas [in the case of Saturn person], or provide greater productivity and guide to action [in case of Mars person]. Constructive criticism, support and ease of sharing your projects, ideas or ways of thinking with your partner without feeling attacked.

🩶The harmonious aspects between Mars-Venus greatly favor sexual and romantic compatibility, and of course, a pleasant and comfortable coexistence for both. Promotes complementarity, the ability to connect in a calm, patient and loving way with your partner and seek to move forward and grow from love and affection.

🩶When we find harmonious aspects between Mars and Jupiter, it not only creates great sexual chemistry and makes it easier to maintain a lively and positive coexistence, but it also favors the resolution of conflicts. This couple seeks to find ways so that both benefit from the decisions they make together, they seek justice and what is right for both of them. Likewise, these aspects create this ease to see a future together in which things look brighter.

🩶When Jupiter is making a conjunction, trine or sextile with Saturn gives the couple that willingness to work on the relationship, the maturity to solve issues calmly and in a practical and beneficial way for both. Likewise, making this couple last over time. The commitment they feel with each other does not feel limiting, since both can guide each other and grow together.

🩶The harmonious aspects between Uranus and Saturn reinforce commitment without the relationship becoming suffocating, since the spark of the unexpected is maintained and refreshes the dynamic. This can be key to alleviating any feelings of stagnation. It is a mix of fluidity with stability, which can provide a supportive and long-term oriented environment.

🩶Your Mars falling in the 6th, 9th or 10th house: With these Mars overlays, the Mars person can help your partner feel more motivated, energetic and able to achieve things. Both will have an energizing effect on the other. Mars in the 6th or 10th does the task of 'shaping' the other's ideas very well, giving them realistic and more achievable perspectives without demotivating the other, support and a way to act and achieve things in the long term. And Mars falling in the 9th house can bring new perspectives and encouragement to your partner.

🩶Mercury falling in the other's 1st, 3rd, or 4th house can be of great help, since any of the previous mentioned helps them connect very easily. Not only in terms of getting to know them well, but also creating a strong intellectual connection in which they feel that they are in tune with what someone else really thinks or believes. The conversations are fluid and they feel that they can be open with each other without being judged.

🩶Honorable mention to: If you and/or your partner have mutable Moon, Mars or Mercury. Pluto-Jupiter trine or sextile. Sun-Mars harmonious aspects.

[thewolffairytaler]

I think I figured out Thomas Hewitt's disease

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I just realised something, Thomas might have lupus (SLE). This isn't confirmed, nor do I believe that Thomas's disease is actually real. However, it's good to think of the idea that it was actually inspired by something or at least make sense.

The majority of lupus patients experience skin issues, including blisters or rashes. Sometimes, lupus simply affects the skin, while other times, it affects other bodily parts as well. Cutaneous lupus refers to skin issues that are unique to lupus patients. Three primary categories exist:

Chronic cutaneous lupus (also called discoid lupus) causes round, disc-shaped sores, usually on the face and scalp. The sores can cause scars or changes in skin color.

Subacute cutaneous lupus causes a red scaly rash or red ring-shaped sores. It usually happens on skin that gets sunlight, like the neck and arms.

Acute cutaneous lupus causes a butterfly-shaped rash on the cheeks and nose that looks like a sunburn (called malar rash). Sometimes it affects other body parts, like the arms and legs.

Other skin-related issues that people with lupus may experience include: Loss of hair Calcinosis: calcium accumulation resulting in hard, white lumps beneath the skin Mucosal ulcers (mouth, nose, or vaginal sores) Blood or visible blood vessels on the skin can also be problematic for those with lupus. Here are several examples: Raynaud's illness, which causes numbness and white or blue fingers and toes in response to stress or cold Livedo reticularis is a purple or blue pattern that appears through the skin and resembles fishnet stockings or lace. Palmar erythema (redness in the palms of the hands) Petechiae are little red patches on the skin that are brought on by thrombocytopenia, or reduced platelets in the blood.

A good thing to mention is that lupus skin problems are not contagious. You can’t catch them or give them to someone else. It only occurs when you'r body's immune system attacks its/your own tissue and organs. The thing about lupus is that it creates a slouth of unexpected symptoms. It can take a while for it to be diagnosed, and once you have done that, it can be incredibly stressful. Lupus is like a disease that can really flare up, physically and even psychological causes can cause lupus to flare up.

So here comes the question that people are first thinking about: Is it cureable? Unfortunately, lupus has no cure, but medicines and lifestyle changes can help treat and manage it.

See a physician on a regular basis. Seeing a doctor on a frequent basis rather than only when your symptoms get worse may help your doctor avoid flare-ups and address common health issues like stress, nutrition, and exercise that can help prevent complications from lupus. Be astute. Wear protective clothes, such as a hat, long-sleeved shirt, and long pants, and apply sunscreen with an SPF of at least 55 whenever you go outside because UV light might provoke a flare. Engage in frequent physical activity. Exercise helps lower a person's chance of heart attack, maintains strong bones, and improves your general health.

Avoid smoking. Smoking can exacerbate the effects of lupus on your heart and blood vessels and raise your risk of cardiovascular illness. Consume a nutritious diet. Whole grains, fruits, and vegetables are the main components of a nutritious diet. One may occasionally be subject to dietary limitations, particularly if you suffer from kidney impairment, high blood pressure, or gastrointestinal issues. Find out from a doctor if you require calcium and vitamin D supplements. Supplementing with vitamin D may help persons with lupus, according to some studies. To maintain healthy bones, you can take a calcium supplement to help you reach the 1,000–1,200 mg daily dietary intake, depending on your age.

Now, I'm not a professional. All I have done is going through multiple sites for research purposes in order to figure this mystery out. If you don't agree with me, that's totally fine. I want to know your opinions and own theories/takes on it cause I don't think there's ever going to be a clear answer. Not unless the original directors or any actor from the remakes states it to us.

[talonabraxas]

Capricorn - Black Sea Goat Talon Abraxas Big things are coming. For everybody. But most significantly, Capricorns. Capricorns have seen several lunar cycles, in 2024 alone. Now when you factor in the last 16 years or so, that's almost too many to count. But, here's the thing. This will be the first new moon in the sign of Capricorn, which will take place without Pluto being stationed in the zodiac. And for those that haven't patiently weathered Pluto's immensely potent energies of death, destruction and transformation for over a decade-and-a-half, they won't truly gauge how doubly gratifying Capricorn's first Pluto-free new moon in a long, long time feels.

For the rest too, the energies swirling are positive and given the timing — just 2 days before New year — it's the perfect time to set your intentions and manifest your dream life. After all, that's what new moons are for! If you have any bit of doubt about how truly special today's date is, just know that the new moon is also a black moon rising, something that happens once in every 29 years! Here's what each of the zodiacs are being encouraged to focus on. Fire signs

A big positive boom (or many small booms) in your career is on the cards. But as you are served success on a platter, you are being asked to channel your energies into being proactive, and not getting complacent in your approach to work. Complacency won't be a problem for Leos as they will find themselves doubly motivated, marching the front line when it comes to shouldering responsibility, and happily at that too! For Sagittarians, great things await for your fiscal situation, given you are ready to act on as much agency as you have. Earth signs

Taurians are known to keep surfing their comfort zone, but this new moon in Capricorn offers you the push you need to finally find yourself in the big leagues. And for the zodiac of the moment, Capricorn, as long as you believe in your potential and out yourself out there, things will unfold like butter on hot toast for you. A piping hot romance is definitely on the cards for Virgos, just be consciously tapped into the present and let your fun and flirty side run amuck for a bit. Air signs

Geminis are being nudged to realise that it's okay to depend on people and ask for help. Letting yourself be vulnerable can truly open exciting doors for you. Librans have probably been wanting to branch out into their own space for a really long time — this is your sign, and this is your portal. Take action! And Aquarians are being asked to indulge in some self-love activities, whatever that looks like for you, considering this is their first new moon with Pluto stationed in their zodiac. Water signs

Commitments and connections, be it platonic, business or romantic, are on the horizon for Cancers — all that hard work from the year past will finally be coming to fruition! Scorpios are being encouraged to the gnawing travel bug that's been trying to get their attention — this and using your voice to speak your truth are the key themes for this new moon. And the only mantra Pisces needs for this new moon is networking, networking and more networking (please, we know you love it).

Happy manifesting!

[inferno-0]

Symbiote PT1

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Routine

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Sorry for the English

Venom

* Quiet days that have come and gone at different paces have already been familiar to you. Knowing what will happen tomorrow and what needs to be done today has never bothered you. As well as life with your new friend who has settled in your body. You had to make a schedule to somehow adjust your life for the Symbiote and not face problems during important matters, since Venom's needs are extremely nightmarish.

* The alien could get hungry at any time and demand human heads until you bang your fist on the table. The idea that you need to displace and postpone tasks because of the symbiote has been haunting you for several days. Venom hesitated with your ideas, but he agreed. Since it is this position that gives you both an advantage.

* An important point.

Venom, sensing your hunger, but receiving protests in response, forcibly makes your stomach rumble during silence, and then smiles at your attempt not to do something suspicious, although one of them has already been done.

Riot

* The Riot is quite tolerant of things like hunger or just a thirst for activity. Such a phenomenon occurs in him only at night, like in you. The amazing coincidence of your habits has led to quite easy performance of other, more important things. What did you, what did him, it was good. But Riot eats more often than you, if you understand its size and strength. Sometimes there may be inconsistencies in the needs of different types. If you have to go to work, then Riot will definitely need a pair of his favorite chocolate.

* The symbiote is surprisingly calm and collected, if you don't remember the first meeting. He is not so dependent on killing and enslaving civilians, but he loves to demonstrate strength and command. And very strongly. If an alien lives in your body, then you have to follow many of the rules that Riot has set for you. But here it is not just subordination, but a service. The alien gives you endurance and strength, and in return you maintain his ability in yourself.

* There may be breakdowns on the part of the Symbiote when you refuse to eat because of work and just try to distract yourself from it.

Carnage

* There is no such agreement here as with the others, but it can only appear as a last resort. If you want to make contact, completely immersed in your schedule, Carnage begins to deny it. He believes that it is up to you to obey and do everything possible to ensure that he survives on this planet before he destroys all life once more. What this is connected with is not yet clear, but Carnage cannot be on a constant attraction to murder every day. Sometimes it turns out that the symbiote is just silent, making you suspicious.

Isn't he looking for an organ to feed himself in your body?

Such behavior sometimes bothers you...

* Carnage tried chocolate and liked it, but also a certain one. Namely, bitter. But besides, the alien loves to eat spicy foods, although this is not surprising. The thought that the symbiote looked like chili peppers made him angry, and he threatened you again, pressing the red substance against the wall. Do not insult him and hint at it, because the Symbiote will certainly get into your brain. Carnage will not kill you anyway, he only wants to bend you under himself, controlling the body.

* The symbiote will still have to adapt to you and wait for its time for "attention". But this type isn't patient enough to soak up this routine in your life and watch you skip dinners.

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Guys, requests are open)

(Sorry, Godzilla is closed for now)

[transmutationisms]

i've been hearing a lot on anti-psychiatry/reframing diagnosis and symptoms/etc (including from your blog) but i feel like im missing a baseline of information to delve in that discussion. do you know some good sources to learn the 101 of what psychiatry is, how diagnoses are "discovered"/labeled, etc...?

before hearing about the subject i assumed mental illnesses/disabilities were the result of a recognizable cause (in the same way covid is caused by contact with the virus, or some form of blindness caused by problems with the optic nerve) but it seems that is not the case.

also, not a native english speaker, don't know if im using the correct vocabulary for this.

before hearing about the subject i assumed mental illnesses/disabilities were the result of a recognizable cause (in the same way covid is caused by contact with the virus, or some form of blindness caused by problems with the optic nerve)

this is a very common misconception, and one that's very useful for the legitimation of the discipline of psychiatry. in truth, genomics and neuroscience have not identified a biological cause of any psychiatric diagnosis (p. 851). psychiatric diagnoses are not made on the basis of neuroimaging or neuroanatomical differences (none have been consistently or strongly observed as defining or causal characteristics of such diagnosed conditions, and neuroimaging datasets, such as by fMRI, are prone to be interpreted in highly varying ways by different researchers), nor with bloodwork or indeed on the basis of any other biomarkers; the 'chemical imbalance' theory of diagnoses like depression has been thoroughly debunked. instead, these diagnoses depend on clinicians' observations of patients' behaviours and affect. this in itself doesn't automatically constitute a damning critique (we rely on subjective judgments of things all the time), but it does mean that attempting to stake the psychiatric discipline's legitimacy on the identification of biological aberrations is at best misleading at and worst fraudulent, not to mention essentialist.

none of this means that psychiatry or psychiatrists are 'making up disorders from nothing', or that people's distress / symptoms are unreal. psychiatry certainly can and does pathologise behaviours that would be more productively understood as responses to traumatic experiences, capitalist political conditions, social oppression, &c; in these processes, it should be understood as a means of producing bourgeois notions of social order & then enforcing them. the fact that psychiatric diagnoses are not made on the basis of, nor do they correspond to, specific biomarkers or biological 'types', doesn't make mental / emotional / affective suffering any less 'real' than any physically observed counterparts.

as for texts that will give you some groundwork on psychiatry, i would recommend Anne Harrington's Mind Fixers: Psychiatry's Troubled Search For the Biology of Mental Illness (2019) and Andrew Scull's Desperate Remedies: Psychiatry's Turbulent Quest to Cure Mental Illness (2022) and Psychiatry and Its Discontents (2019). all three of these are heavily focussed on the usa, which is generally overrepresented in historical and sociological literature on psychiatry; however, i still think these three texts are useful starting points for getting introduced to the history of psychiatry and broad contours of critiques of the discipline. i've also posted a longer anti-psychiatry reading list that has more texts focussed on other national and international contexts.

[karmaalwayswins]

@quezify eggtober 2024

Nurse Kylie poked her head into the emergency department’s provider room. “Dr. T?”

“Yeah?”

“David wants you to come to room 12.”

“It’s a sprained ankle, he can handle that.”

“He already saw the patient, but he said you’ll need to see him too.”

Dr. T stood up from the computer and walked to room 12. David, the physician assistant, met her in the hallway across from the room. 

“Patient is Allen Spencer, age 29. He signed in for a sprained ankle. His xrays are fine, but when he opened up his bag… Well, see for yourself.”

The patient, a brown haired man wearing a sweatshirt and track pants, was sitting on the stretcher watching TV. Next to him was an approximately one foot tall egg with arms and legs. It was faceless. Neither the patient or the egg seemed to be in any acute distress. 

“That’s an egg who has arms and legs,” Dr. T said. 

“It is.”

On the TV screen, a football game was playing. A wide receiver caught a pass and started doing an end zone dance. The patient let out a little squeal and high fived the egg. The egg then stood up and started imitating the end zone dance. 

“It has no eyes but it can see.”

David passed her a notepad. “It asked for a pen and then wrote this.” 

On the notepad was a neatly written message in blue ink. Dr. T read it out loud in an annoyed voice. “Turn on the game.” She shook her head, then said, “This looks like an Institute problem. Did you check the guy for a chip?”

David answered, “I did. His scan flags for Spiceland Institute.”

“Did you call them?”

“Figured I should let you see him first.”

“Does he have any complaints other than his ankle?”

“He’s fine other than that.”

“OK. I’ll check his ankle just to say I did. Call the institute so they can come and get him and his egg. Get a sitter for the room until their team shows up.”

Dr. T. entered the room. “Hi Mr. Spencer, I’m Dr. T. They told me you hurt your ankle.”

“I twisted it in the woods.”

“I’ll take a look at it. Who’s your friend here?”

“He’s Buddy. He likes football.”

“Let’s have Buddy sit in the chair while I look at your ankle.”

The egg athletically jumped down off of the bed, walked over to the chair, turned the chair to face the TV screen, and then climbed into it to sit. Dr. T raised her eyebrows as this series of events occurred, let out a breath, and then started looking at Mr. Spencer’s ankle.

“I barely see any swelling here. Can you bend your foot up and down for me? Good. Wiggle your toes. Good.” She stood up. “I’m going to go talk to PA David. You can just rest for now and watch the game. OK?”

“OK.”

When she exited the room, a panda-man wearing scrubs was stationed in a chair next to the door, on sitter duty. His arms were crossed over his broad chest. He nodded his head and asked, “How you doing, Dr. T?”

“Depends on how much paperwork I have to do about this,” she said. 

She walked over to Helen, the charge nurse. “You’ve got Tai Shan doing sitter duty?”

Helen shrugged. “He’s trying to buy a house. He needs the extra hours.”

A couple of hours later, staff from Spiceland Institute arrived. Dr. T shook hands with the two men, who were wearing black baseball hats and black jumpsuits.

“I’m Dr. T.”

“Specialist Allen Kemper.”

“Specialist Dale Chavez. I gave your charge nurse the transfer paperwork. Can I get your name for our records?”

“First name’s Wendy, with a Y. I’ll just spell my last name. T-A-P-A-Z-O-C-L-O-L-I-N-E-A-B-E-U hyphen D-I-A-Z.”

“Got it. We’ll take him off of your hands.”

“And the egg?”

Specialist Chavez rolled his eyes. “We’ll take the egg too. The two of them are kind of a package deal. We've been looking for them for the past day and a half.”

Specialist Kemper cleared his throat.

Specialist Chavez shifted his eyes in response, then asked, "Which room are they in?"

"Room 12," Dr. T answered.

Specialist Kemper was helping Mr. Spencer into his coat when Dr. T went back into the room with the discharge paperwork.

Mr. Spencer was talking. “I watched the football game. And I had two cookies!”

“Two cookies are better than one cookie,” Specialist Kemper said.

Mr. Spencer asked, "Did you notice that it gets dark earlier now?"

"I did," Specialist Kemper answered.

On the floor, Buddy the Egg was enclosed in a carrier. By body position, he seemed forlorn. 

As the Spiceland Institute team walked out with Mr. Spencer and Buddy, Tai Shan glared at the specialists from his chair. 

Helen came up to Dr. T. “We’ve got a cardiac arrest coming in five.”

“What bed are you going to?”

“Thirty-four.”

“OK.”

[lafortezaboy]

How would the girls get reader’s attention when they’re on the game ?💕

content warning: suggestive content (daniela)

sophia would be patient with you, honestly. she knows your games are a way you like to wind down, so she wouldn't be in a rush to yet you off them. there are some days though, where even she needs your attention, and those are the times she'll come up behind you, arms wrapping around your shoulders and whining in your ear that she needs you to hold her. and she does give you your game time usually, so it doesn't take long for her to get you to log off and get in bed with her

manon tries to be patient, but once you get to a point where you're so focused nothing else exists to you, including her, that's when she gets pouty. she'll start by making little noises in the background, and then when that doesn't work she'll start talking to you and getting zoned out responses, so that's when she'll say something outlandish that makes you do a double take. that's when she'll tell you to come cuddle her, and honestly you can't ever really tell her no, especially when she's pouting at you the way she is

daniela is the least patient out of them all. she tries – she really does. but if she feels like you aren't paying attention to her, she'll make it everyone's problem. she'll go pout to the girls, she'll pout to you, she'll pout on weverse, genuinely everyone knows that you're not paying attention to her. she's the one where her brattiness pops out, and she'll get you off the game one of two ways. you'll either begin to hear faint moans in the background as she begins to distract you, or she'll just get straight to the point and take her shirt off and get in your lap. it depends on how impatient she's feeling, but both work on you a little too well

lara honestly doesn't care if you're playing your games for a while, because she's more often than not doing something herself, and only makes you get off the games when she's finished with what she's doing. she's gentle about it though, she'll come up behind you and remove your headset, and she'll kiss your cheek as she tells you she wants you to lay with her, or that she's hungry and knows you are too. it doesn't take her much to get you to get off your games

megan is the one who's more than likely playing with you, so more often than not, it's sophia or lara who makes you two get off your games. when megan isn't on with you, she's more than likely sitting in your lap, cuddled up to you while you play. there are times when she does want your attention though, and during those she'll take your headset off of you and put it on, and she'll say something along the lines of "this is y/n's girlfriend, i'm taking them back now, have fun". there was one time your friends started talking to her and she got invested in the conversation, mostly gushing about you and leading to them teasing you the next time you got online, but any amount of teasing was worth it when it came to megan

[script-a-world]

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How reckless could a race of people be if they could heal rapidly? If someone got hit by a car in real life and needed a few months to start walking again, and over a year to do anything like martial arts again, for these people, they'd be walking in a few days and doing martial arts in two weeks. If they would die on impact, then yes, they would die. If they would die in an ambulance, it depends but they would still have a chance. In real life, cuts that take a few days to heal will be healed in several minutes. They definitely do feel pain of course, but as a whole, the general populace has pain tolerance just below those of elite athletes in the real world. I'm imagining these people might be the daredevil type.. could it be very common to get cuts and bruises, not strange to see some of the worst kids or teens getting cut nearly every single day, multiple times a day. I mostly want to focus on the injured = not a big deal bit. Or getting injured as part of normal daily life. But what else might this affect? More surgeries happening because people decide the recovery time isn't an issue (doesn't eliminate other factors of course) How about piercings? If someone goes half a day without piercings, their hole would close. Maybe... medicine that stops the healing process? But how expensive could those medicines be vs getting pierced again?

Tex: So there’s this plant, called plantain. One of the common varieties is known as Plantago major. One of its primary uses in herbal medicine is to heal wounds - and it’s very good at it!

A little bit too good, unfortunately, and it often comes with a warning to clean out wounds first before applying it, because it has the tendency to work so quickly at encouraging skin to knit back up that infections can easily be sealed underneath. This is a problem, because in order to heal the infection, the skin must be cut back open, lest someone risk the infection spreading to the blood and causing sepsis (if not, in bad cases, necrosis).

“Super healing” has many of the same flaws. In practice, the process of healing is rather complex, and while there is some overlap in steps (excess blood cleared away, immune system response to pathogens, phagocytosis, signals sent to regenerate broken tissue or other affected organs), doing too much of only one process can have detrimental effects on the patient in question. It’s the reason why in first aid you clean a wound first, then apply medicines, then apply bandages.

Things like bones, and the squishier bits called organs, take time to heal, because they’re not only reallocating resources to grow new cells (i.e. neurogenesis, osteogenesis, etc), they’re also going through the entire pathway of fighting infections (i.e. B cells, T cells, etc) and checking for cancerous markers of cells that duplicated incorrectly (uncommon, but non-zero possibility). It’s a lot, lot more than “add calcium to bone” or “make skin whole”.

Regeneration of tissue is also rather itchy, and uncomfortable. That, barring anything else, is going to make a lot of people think twice about how many injuries they’re willing to risk. Compounding injuries compounds the discomfort, and most people wish to avoid being uncomfortable if there’s any other option for a situation.

On top of that, rapid regeneration would require a large amount of resources for both calories and micronutrients. This translates to being hungry all the time. Humans can generally heal quickly with a good diet and enough sleep (the brain regulates the flushing of metabolic waste during sleep, Patel et al.), which is why it’s seen as a good sign for hospital patients to have an appetite and also to have a regular sleep schedule.

You can handwave as much of this as you like in your worldbuilding, but to borrow SAW’s general rule, “you break it, you bought it” in terms of internal consistency.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

WIBTA for not helping my brother unlearn some hate?

I (16F) and my brother (9M, let's call him K) are both from a third world country with some less-than-friendly general views, most of which my parents agree with. I couldn't care less if my mom is vividly disgusted at Chinese/Korean products/music or if she wholeheartedly believes that having crushes on your female friends is "normal" and "not homosexuality", because she's a really kind and sweet person and I just love her, you know? She never voices these thoughts around people who are that way and even has Chinese friends herself, but once I ask her "what do you think your friends would feel if they knew you said things like that sometimes?" to which her response was basically "it's not like I'll ever say it to their face, that's rude, and I don't think they're any less humans than us, their country taking over the industrial world and music is just disgusting". Or she immediately demands the channel be changed if the tv is showing an LGBT couple (this is illegal in our country, we connect to foreign satellites which don't censor this).

Anyway. Sorry for the ramble. This leads me to two problems:

My brother is kinda short and skinny due to genetics. And when I say "kinda", I mean like, he's really, really small and tiny for his age and often gets mistaken for a preschooler or first grader. My mother worries over the fact that the boys at his school (since we're all being raised in the same toxic society, huzzah) bully him for being smaller than them. And K has a tendency to easily cry at insults, furthering this issue. I've talked to him several times on how he'll get a growth spurt and it's fine, but my mom's talks mainly consist of how he's a grown boy now and it's not nice for boys his age to cry in public like that. She also doesn't really like me getting "involved" in K's bullying issues. Please, PLEASE don't send any hate to my mom, okay guys? She's one of the best people I know.

The other issue here is that K technically IS growing up, but he's also learning some of the really uncomfortable aspects of this society by repeating things like "the referee for this soccer game probably let the other team win because he's Chinese" (to which I had to correct him and say the referee was actually Filipino, but never mind) or asking me with GENUINE curiosity if I, as a girl, play soccer at my school (he loves soccer so so much, I try to encourage this love for him).

I correct him on this stuff as much as I can, but honestly... sometimes I just don't. Sure, I think it's bad and all, but I (probably, I don't remember much) grew up being the same way considering the way our society is. And if I turned out nice enough, I'm sure he just needs to be the right age for some more technical guidance and all I can do here is randomly tell him he's wrong when he says this stuff. My mom just... she thinks it's a huge stretch to "call everything racism nowadays", which I think REALLY depends on the context! My brother says this stuff very, very rarely, but I don't think he really... gets /why/ it's bad, you know? Again, I'm mostly planning on giving him advice on occasion and letting him figure it out by himself, but I don't want him saying racist/antisemitic/sexist jokes by accident in public, less so because it might humiliate the family and more so because it might actually upset someone.

Again, WIBTA? Don't call my mom the asshole here, please. She's super extremely polite to everyone, calls for action against our dictatorship of a government, and gives medical care to her less financially stable patients for free (she's a doctor). She just has some little views here and there that are the result of her upbringing, same as ours are the result of what we experienced. I can wholeheartedly forgive her for that.

[sophieinwonderland]

I want to start with: people are not their disorders. Disorders are not identities. They are intended for clinicians and insurance companies and for treatment. They are clusters of symptoms. And they are faulty and honestly a poor piss always of describing people. All psychiatric disorders contain overlap. Personality disorders especially contain overlapping symptoms. Rarely does a person exactly fit one PD. Dissociation can be a symptom of PDs. Dissociating is not necessarily indicative of a dissociative disorder. Also, there is nothing wrong with being diagnosed with a PD. It doesn’t mean that person is a bad person. A PD is diagnosed when a person exhibits a pattern of certain behaviors over a long period of time, usually start in adolescence. PDs are often difficult to treat because those diagnosed often do not see any problem with their behavior, and therefore often do not actively try to change. PDs are incredibly sad, for both the person who likely experiences much unhappiness but can’t see why and for those around them.

I imagine that patient’s doctors knew her very well before coming to their diagnosis. It is very possible they observed manipulative behavior in her regularly. She may have believed she had DID as it would have been a convenient excuse to continue her manipulative behaviors. Often, people do not want to take responsibility for their harmful behavior. Could you imagine if everyone could just blame bad behavior on a dissociative disorder? It sounds like she just pointed to the dissociative disorder as an excuse, rather than feeling actual remorse or regret for her actions. Therein lies the difference. Again, does this make her a bad person? No. She clearly had a hard life that shaped her into who she was. However, it is important to diagnose correctly. Treatment changes depending on the diagnosis. Honestly, this is why I personally believe diagnoses should be withheld. Rather than viewing themselves as a whole person, patients may often overly identify with the diagnosis which can also hinder recovery (i.e. getting the patient to a place where they no longer feel the need to use maladaptive coping strategies; more ideally, getting them to a place where they can thrive rather than only survive).

Regardless, that is one anecdote. My point remains that it does happen that one is introduced with the concept of alters and then they suddenly have alters, not because they have DID, but again, because they have high suggestibility, prone to fantasy, etc. And that is ok! That doesn’t make them liars or bad people. It just doesn’t necessarily mean they have DID and therefore treatment used for DID may not be effective for them. More likely they’re young, still figuring out their identity, confused, etc. Clinicians need to be careful when a new client comes in claiming alters as having the wrong diagnosis can, again, hinder recovery, and with DID being all over social media nowadays, this is becoming more common.

I imagine that patient’s doctors knew her very well before coming to their diagnosis.

She had initially been diagnosed with DID.

Then she was sent to the clinic that conducted this study who suspected she didn't have real DID as soon as she was admitted to their department.

Honestly, this is why I personally believe diagnoses should be withheld.

You mean you shouldn't tell the patients what they're diagnosed with?

That's a terrible idea! Just imagine all the patients put on who knows how many different types of medications without being told what the meds are even treating! Unless you just mean for DID specifically, but then why single that out?

However, it is important to diagnose correctly.

I agree. It is very important to diagnose correctly. But the reasoning for her not having DID is weak. By all counts, it sounds like she fit the criteria. If not for DID then at least for OSDD.

Let me put this a different way.

These doctors had a problem. There were lawsuits being filed against psychiatrists for alleged misdiagnoses. To protect themselves and other doctors from such suits, they needed a defense.

They created a theory of "imitated DID" as a solution to this problem. A super hard-to-detect condition where people just enacted the symptoms of DID, that doctors couldn't possibly be held liable for because of how hard it is to detect.

To back up this theory, well, they needed case studies to use as examples. Which meant identifying people to have their made-up condition.

Regardless, that is one anecdote.

It's THE FIRST anecdote. This, and the other case studies presented, were what was used as justification to create Imitated DID as a concept!

Before this paper, there was malingering which was intentionally lying to gain some type of benefit. But there was no real concept of people gaining or imitating DID-like symptoms unconsciously.

In the end, this alleged condition of "imitated DID" has no scientific basis. The theory is not driven by science, but money. It was made up to protect doctors from legal liability.

My point remains that it does happen that one is introduced with the concept of alters and then they suddenly have alters, not because they have DID, but again, because they have high suggestibility, prone to fantasy, etc.

And my point is that evidence for this claim is lacking.

Many people don't just form alters after learning that DID exists. But sure, when people learn about plurality, if they are already plural, there is a tendency for them to realize that they already had headmates afterwards. But those headmates didn't just come into existence. It's just that the system didn't have words to describe their experiences before.

I will give you that, because of rampant system medicalism, many of these may be non-disordered systems will wrongfully self-diagnose as disordered systems. This is a reason we need more education on systems of all kinds.

But that's still not imitated DID. It's not created to copy DID experiences. They're just using the closest thing they know about to define the experience of being multiple that they already have.

Clinicians need to be careful when a new client comes in claiming alters as having the wrong diagnosis can, again, hinder recovery, and with DID being all over social media nowadays, this is becoming more common.

And yet, false diagnosis of DID is a non-issue. In a later study, Suzette Boon, who invented the concept of imitated DID, discussed how only 6 out of the 85 patients in that study were misdiagnosed with DID. In the same paper, she mentions how other studies have shown 26-40% of DID patients will be diagnosed with schizophrenia long before they get a correct diagnosis of DID. And that's just schizophrenia alone, never mind other psychotic disorders, BPD and similar disorders that are often confused with DID.

There is no epidemic of people getting falsely diagnosed with DID.

But there is an epidemic of people with DID and other dissociative disorders being wrongfully diagnosed with other conditions.

Why then, aren't we calling for clinicians to show the same care when diagnosing schizophrenia that we are with them diagnosing DID?

Oh wait, I just thought of 16 billion reasons.

[shuadotcom]

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[astroyongie]

How would NCT127 react if they made their significant other cry

How Would NCT127 React If They Made Their S/O Cry

Taeil

It will really depend on where exactly he made you cry

if you start crying in public he will feel uneasy

and his first move would be to take you away so people don't stare

if you guys are in private he behaves differently

he will mostly try to understand why you are crying

and why was it his fault

Taeil would want to talk about it

He would listen to you and try to understand your feelings

He would apologize if he hurt you

and he would try to compensate by snuggling with you

hug you

or give you a sorry kiss

Johnny

Johnny is a paradox

because when he hurts you and your response is by crying he will conflict with his own feelings

firstly of course he feels bad

he will want to listen to your point

of why you crying, why you reacting like that

he might even understand you

but on another side, he is way too careless

and his emotional reticence will make him think that you are overacting (again)

and that can be conflicting if he says out loud that he thinks you are being dramatic about the whole thing

He will try to be fair

but mostly he doesn't talk much to solve the thing

he will let you do whatever you want because he doesn't want to be dragged on "your drama"

Probably uses his romantic side to make you forgive him

he might take things to a physical level as well

Taeyong

Taeyong can be sharp sometimes

and if he hurt you he might not understand it at first glance

seeing you cry will make him understand

However careful, because his placements also indicate that when he hurts someone he might take the victim role

in a way "oh I hurt you, I am the bad guy, leave me" type

So depending on you this would result in a fight

or in something quiet where both of you take some time away from each other to reflect

but he ain't stupid either

and he wouldn't like to stay in such a mood

he would be the type to annoy you, to be playful until you forgive him about what he did

Yuta

Oh this boy will hate himself for making you cry

of course, if you are crying there might have been something he has done, maybe due to a fight, an argument, or something else

doesn't matter to him, even if his point of view seems logical and important he will still feel bad for making you cry

Yuta will handle this in a diplomatic way

you guys would talk through calmly

each one exposing feelings and ideas to find a middle ground

He will try his best to make you forget about this

he is the type to wipe your tears away

to hug you

to make jokes

because making you laugh somehow helps him feel less shitty about the whole thing

Doyoung

He would be surprised if you start crying because of something he said or has done

contrary to the other boys, Doyoung might use emotional and logical manipulation to get himself out of the problem

basically reviewing what went wrong and try to argue things in a way that might touch you

not to ridicule your feelings

but to put another perspective on what you are feeling so he seems less guilty

He is a perfect storyteller

and the way he always put something positive and bright into his arguments makes him see more plausible

so there's a chance that by the end of the convo, you don't even understand or remember why you started crying at the first place

He would try to use also contact and love to ease your feelings

Jaehyun

Despite being an ass in love he isn't an ass in the totality of it

meaning that if he makes you cry he will feel compassionate

he will stop whatever he did or said that hurt you

and he would give you time to calm down

Jaehyun hates conflicts and no matter if he truly loves you or not, he will be patient and calm about it

He will stay quiet and allow you to express your feelings

he might just look at you, nod his head and understand

although he might not say sorry

he will show empathy

He will try to find a common ground so you guys don't get into that situation again

he will also allow you to make your own choices concerning the relationship

Jungwoo

He would become very quiet at first when he sees you cry

the type to feel very guilty about things

but at the same time, he would try to over-analyze why what he did or said made you cry

of course, he would want to know from your version

but he still makes his own idea of why you reacted the way you did

He would make the quick decisions

to talk It through right now

so you guys won't stay stuck in this mood

He won't hold grudge against himself

but he will be very understanding

Jungwoo would apologize for his wrongdoings

and after that he will do whatever you want to do

cuddle? sure! Do you need time ? no problem will be of service

Mark

He would be on the defensive

seeing you cry will mix his ego up and that's not something he appreciated

so if you gus are arguing and you start crying he gets defensive

and impatient with your cries

asking you to stop doing so

that you are being dramatic

and that it's not his fault if you feel things that way, because that's not what he meant

Mark can be very persuasive as well

and the same way you use your feelings to communicate he will do the same

"oh you crying because of this ? well it's because you did this or that" type

it would be honestly better for you both to take time away from each other o cool down and talk later

because in the moment he will refuse your guidance

he won't listen to your point

because only his own matters

Haechan

He can be a total prick

and his capricious side would come out as well

seeing you cry won't make him emotional nor guilty

because what matter for this man is to win whatever argument you both are

even if he knows that he is wrong

his placements clearly show that he feeds of arguments

and crying won't stop him

so yeah things can get heated pretty quickly

and just like Mark I think it would be better for you guys to take some time out

to cool down

and mostly not talk to him until he changes his point of view, which can take some time

Haechan is way too complicated to deal with honestly

[polyamorousmood]

If youre having jealousy but its something youve already consented to, and you know its something you just need to work on internally, is that something you should still talk about with your partner? I dont want them to feel anxious about my feelings, but admittedly i am having a hard time and while i think i can figure it out on my own, im afraid im not hiding it well enough, and if theyve noticed then maybe should we talk about it?

I am of the opinion you should tell your partner pretty much everything you're feeling, even if you're capable of handling it on your own.*

Especially if you think they notice something off, you telling them what it is, and that you're handling it, will likely actually be very reassuring to your partner. Because then they know the scope of the problem, they're at much lower risk of their anxiety going "actually, they Just Hate Me Now😣".

However, those asterisks are pretty important caveats. Below the cut to save space

*

not every relationship is capable of handling these discussions. If you have a partner that tends to take a minor thing and run 🏃‍♀️💨with it until they've convinced themselves they're unlovable actually, it may not be worth it. If you have a partner that isn't the best at being supportive/helping you through things ("well, you said it was okay, so I expect you to figure it out"), it may not be worth it. Etc.

They should know you're feeling something. That does not necessarily mean mentioning it Every Single Time or going into great detail.

It does require the understanding from your partner that not everything you mention is necessarily a "them problem", and that sometimes you just need to clear the air 🎐, bounce ideas off them💡, vent🤬, or whatever.

There may be one or two things your partner cannot handle hearing for whatever reason. You should do your best to respect that, after having a talk about them not being in a place they can hear that.

And then because of the type of person I am, even my asterisks have footnotes🥴:

If this is a such problem to where you don't feel like you can casually mention something minor🤏, I personally would start making exit plans or have a serious discussion with your partner about how their behavior is impacting your ability to be emotionally intimate and work as a team with them.

This is what I mean by casually mentioning something. You should generally be able to say "yeah, X caused me problems I wasn't expecting. Nothing I can't handle, just, if I seem touchy about it, please be patient with me" and get a sympathetic response, maybe even a suggestion on something that might help. If its already been discussed you should generally be able to check in with them and give a "it was better/worse than usually this time (so that's nice)/(but I'm okay)". Again, depending on what it is you're jealous about, it might be too much if you do this every time⏲️, but you should at least be able to occasionally or if there's a significant change

If you don't have this understanding, start building it 👷‍♂️🔨! Start saying "I don't expect you to do anything about this, but" and "I just need to vent, and then I really don't think it'll be a problem, but" and "I'm not blaming you at all, in fact I'm 99% certain this is just a Me Problem, but". This has helped me LOADS.

You SHOULD have a talk about it first. Either they can say "I really can't handle you complaining about [thing]" or if its something you noticed, you can say "it seems like its really hard on you when I bring up [thing], do I need to start finding another way to handle that?" Reasons for this include: 📃making sure you're on the same page wrt how much its bothering them, making sure the efforts you're making for them aren't taken for granted, making sure they aren't more bothered by you not saying anything, it may become such a problem for you that you have to mention it and you should be clear on that from the beginning, and many more!

Good luck out there, and happy relationships!! 💙💖🖤

[itgomyway]

someone asked me awhile ago about forgiving an sp so i have a new perspective. when it comes to forgiving an sp, i want you guys to think about something *disclaimer: im not blaming you. no one is making you manifest them back. if you have problems they're yours alone and you are responsible for them.* if you believe in the multiple versions thing (bc instantly things can change based on your awareness) then let's for a second separate the two. we have

💔 sp who didn't commit, didn't want to show affection, was cheating, toxic, etc.

🤍 sp who is dying to commit, is constantly showing you affection, would never dream of cheating or even hurting you

both of these people exist right now in the moment depending on whichever you're aware of. STOP dealing with 💔since you left that reality there's no need for that dusty mf to exist. and probably 🤍 hates them because of the growth and pain they had to endure to get there. imagine your entire life being about the worst thing you've ever done. (luckily i don't have to) but whenever i think about how was trying to manifest him back but would keep arguing with him in my head i literally imagined me and 🤍 talking and then all of a sudden i get upset at 💔 who no longer exist and is a shadow of 🤍 past. i can consciously accept this fact but 🤍 cannot. every time i think about 💔 and how i was treated i was just reminding 🤍 of his past (therefore doesn't exist) mistakes. since i was trying to manifest 🤍 while continuously interacting with 💔, hot and cold behavior instead came up. stay with 🤍

he didn't want to reach out cuz he was scared i hated him and tbh since thought transmission exists that's exactly what i was showing him by arguing with the previous version. once i stopped this and decided i wanted to put the past behind us i realized it was ego in the first place so it was REALLY easy.

i h a t e the old him with a passion and whenever i thought about it i get upset but now i just assume he gets pissed at him too cuz of his growth. make the old story work for you while destroying it since getting rid of the old story makes you want to get rid of beliefs by default. be kind and patient to yourself and remember that at the end of the day no one is making you or forcing you.